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Negativity…For What?

I’m not saying don’t EVER be negative…ok I AM saying that, but I think for most every living breathing human being that will be nigh on impossible…whatever. I’m not talking about perfection I’m talking about intent and action. Now. What you do in this present moment. That’s the only thing that is important and being positive (not negative) in this moment and in each “this moment” that you have is key.
Key to what? you might ask. Everything. I would answer. Yeah, oh…Doc…Everything. you say with incredulity. Yes, Everything! I say, But I’ll start small, ok?
Let’s not worry about EVERYTHING or PERFECTION, let us simply concern ourselves with what’s on our mind now and our best efforts to think as positively about that/those things as we can. Ok? I’ll do it, if you will (again, I’m doing it anyway, but you know…). So within our best effort to think positively on our challenges (whether they be tasks or relationships) we can give ourselves the energy to address these and move them in the right direction.

Criticism and complaining is the worst kind of negative thinking in regard to getting what you want and enjoying your experiences and interactions with others. I have one special person in my life who still gets the brunt of my criticism and complaints–which mostly, but not always stays in my head. And for the most part our relationship does NOT improve. It stays right in the negative zone. Pretty much every experience with this person sucks and when they don’t suck they’re neutral at best. That is so WEAK. I’m working on it! I’m working on it! Do you have such a person? Ugh!

Criticism and complaining just bring you more to criticize and complain about. Bleh! I don’t want that! I DO NOT WANT THAT! I feel it in my chest when I think about just getting more from my criticism and complaints now. NO THANKS! That feeling of “no more, thank you!” is what backs me right off that negative thought path. I would rather think of something gross than think of something negative–like a cigarette floating in a greasy bowl of cold soup. YUCK! But it’s better than complaining about something I DO NOT want more of. Turns me right away from that worse line of thought. Plus I’m not going to think about filthy cigarette water for long, but I could go on for hours criticizing the one I don’t love. HA! No, stop, now!

And criticism, complaining and negative thought paths don’t serve any real purpose. Does complaining usually fix anything? Occasionally you can get a bill adjusted or something fixed, but in terms of your intimate relationships does it ever really create the change you want? Never for me. Criticism of art or dance MAY instruct (and may not), but criticism of your children (without the offering of a better alternative, particularly) will just make them feel bad (and you too, admit it) and not get you the behavior from them that you want. Allowing your mind to wander and wallow down a negative thought path again will not get you what you want. Have you ever stuck to the diet from calling yourself fat and lacking will power? Has that ever really worked for you? Never has for me. I got frustrated with my fat, but I wasn’t hating on it when I lost it. Just ready for it to go.

So that’s it. Negativity, for what? The only thing it seems to accomplish is giving you more of what you  don’t want and keeps you from the things you want. So, stop, now!

Love ya,


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November 28, 2011 - Posted by | Uncategorized | , , , , , , ,

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