Limited Thinking is Rather Useless

Hmmmmm. I was thinking about limited thinking. About all of our (ok, my) “I can’ts” or “I shouldn’ts” or “I don’t know how to, so I won’t trys” and the worst of all, “I’m nots”. “I’m not this enough or that enough to do that.” “I’m not at this level yet, so I can’t do that.” This always ends up a self fulfilling prophecy. You say you are or you aren’t and it’s true enough, you end up being that…usually the thing that you don’t want to be.

For some reason (a lifetime of conditioning, perhaps) it is very easy to “energize” our negative thinking…especially about ourselves. I do it all the time, sad to say. Even though I may be a bit better than average at catching myself, I still do need to catch myself in my negative mindsets about me from time to time.

Oddly enough I wasn’t thinking particularly negatively about myself today, I was just having fun ice skating with my son and nieces and admiring the speedskateresque thighs of mine in my tights, when I thought about the uselessness of thinking negatively about oneself. What do we get out of it. Everything we do has some benefit to us or we won’t do it. What is the point of thinking about our “limitations”? Avoidance of failure? Not facing a fear? Maintaining old relationships based on a limited version of us? Hmmmm…all of these outcomes sound pretty sucky to me. Why choose sucky? Again the same reasons I just listed likely apply. Useless.

I can’t think of an upside to thinking of or energizing our “can’ts” and “nots”…especially not in light of the limited time we have here in this life. Every moment is precious and our last one is coming sooner or later, so spending any of our moments putting ourselves down, limiting our possibilities, and saying “no” to ourselves is a waste of time. So stop. I will, if you will.

You know I love ya!

Dr. Alissa

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